DAY 5, MAY 6, 2018
“Getting old is the pits” I said. “Age gracefully” they said. How do I do that? I thought. “I forget things” I said. “Because we have more to remember” my cousin said. That makes perfect sense, I thought.
GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK. Can’t pull a word out of your head, forget a name, don’t know why you came into a room; all signs of old age but they don’t mean you are doomed to dementia or its onset. You just have more memories stored than you did 20 years ago. I can’t find the exact quote but think it was Erma Bombeck who said “it is too bad we can’t erase things we don’t need to remember to make room for things we want to remember”.
CONSIDER THE ALTERNATIVE. Old age is a privilege many have not achieved. Perhaps you can thank your lucky genes or good luck. Perhaps you can thank your healthy decisions, but be thankful you have made it thus far.
THERE IS STILL TIME. Maybe you are not healthy enough to do some of the things you wished you had done. Perhaps you don’t have the means to take that big vacation. Think smaller, ditch regret. Live a little.
CARE LESS. And I don’t mean, stop grooming, please keep grooming. Care less about what you cannot change. Care less about a barking dog, the self-esteem of others, what celebrities are doing, burnt toast. You get the picture. You will find joy in the letting go. You may even laugh at having cared.
BE SELFISH. You have earned “me time”. Of all the selfless things you do, eliminate those that don’t give you gratification. Purge yourself of things you resent. Rid yourself of people who do not merit your time. Help those in need when it makes you feel good to do so. Keep the peace without losing a piece of yourself.
FIND A HEALTHY MANTRA. Through repetition, change old ways and keep growing. Tell yourself what you wish to accomplish and then tell yourself again and again. Perhaps, it can be this simple – do what you love, do what you love, do what you love.
I love to lay about and read. I just finished the Calligrapher’s Daughter by Eugenia Kim. I heartily recommend it for your summer reading list. It is historical fiction. I learned from this book and was carried away by a history I knew nothing about.
Quote for this day – Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. Neale Donald Walsch